As An Adult I Have I Hard Time Judging Behavior

I read this quote on http://groups.msn.com/PSYCHOPATH/whogetstargeted.msnw and how true this statement is for someone who has lived with a pyschopath. I acutally told my friend S this some time ago.

"I come from a dysfunctional background. Quite honestly, I have great difficulty understanding as an adult when I'm being treated in a way that is just wrong."
(member's quote)

Well, off to church and this is something else my brother has used to control everyone with he would say if you don't forgive you are not true Christian.

Life In Pyschodom - Letting Go!!!

Well, I have reached the point in my life were I am going to try and ignore my brother. People have told me this many times before and I have been unable to actually ignore him. I think he realizes this and does something so outrageous to draw my back in. It is my belief (maybe it is the old Baptists in me) that God puts people in our lives for a reason. So I believe there is something I am suppose to learn from my brother. And I think the first lesson is that everything cannot be controlled in life. When I let him back in I believe it is because I am trying to control the situation again (And I am also just repeating old habits). I also believe these situations are being brought up yet again in order that I may resolve some issues from my childhood. And I believe my brother is a pivotal part of my childhood that things have to be undone and learned from.

My Brother Hasn't Worked for Over 11 Years

My brother isn’t working he just lives off various family members. This has been going on for at least 11 years. He has my mom conned into thinking that if he doesn’t live with her he will become a homeless person. She has fallen for his bluff and will not kick him out. Thus, the status quo remains in my family. My brother has the best of all worlds and is living the life he wants to live. My mom tells my brother he has to get a job he then agrees with her and doesn’t do anything. When he does something (“something” that is really is an understatement you will see) to offend someone he doesn’t do it for a while then does it again the status quo remains. And he had a well paying job in the past.

My Brother Is a Psychopath

Some time ago I wrote a brief entry that my brother is a psychopath. This was a revelation to me. All my life I have put up with his mental manipulations and his psychological abuse. And periodically it has even been psychical abuse to me and other members of my family. When you are young you tend to think everything around you is your fault and that you create the things around you. So when you finally realize that someone does have mental problems it is a release of some kind. At first I didn’t want to write anything about my psychopath brother because I didn’t want him to control my life anymore. But, I am beginning to see it might be healthy in a way to write some of these things so that I may come to terms with living with such a person has done to me.